Saturday, July 17, 2010
I recently read a statistic that said people who's close friends are divorced are 75% more likely to get a divorce themselves. I hate this statistic but I can't help but believe that it's true. We don't have any divorced friends. Most of our close friends aren't even married, or in relationships at all. The stark contrast of our singles friends with few responsibilities and no one to answer to, to our little family with baby to worry about and the desire to spend our nights together. Even the most understanding of our friends have been known to say "I just wish he could still go out whenever he wanted". The worst have decided to hate me for every new choice my husband makes of which they do not approve. Well meaning friends will tell one of us the other doesn't treat us as well as they should! Not only is that a betrayal to the spouse you are talking about but to the marriage itself! Creating anger that wasn't even there in the first place, and causing a rift between two people who need to fuse together! A marriage needs a support structure to help fight for each other through the hard times. Not a network of friends pulling in whatever direction they please to suit their desires for the day. It's difficult enough with well meaning friends and misunderstandings from 3rd parties. I can't imagine how hard it would be after spending a day with a newly divorced "free" friend who is looking for the bright side in his/her bad breakup and looking for some newly single company.
Thursday, July 15, 2010
I just wanna start with how much I love being a mom. I have always wanted to be a mom and it is everything I hoped it would be. I am writing this because I am tired of always hearing about how much people have 'sacrificed' to be a mom. I still get to do everything that is important to me. I still wear make up when I want to, I keep my hair done and carry the purse that I want to carry, I even buy clothes when I can afford it. (Just like before the baby). My husband and I go on dates and we plan to travel when our kids are old enough. We even go to restaurants with real menus (we have an awesomely calm child). Of course my life isn't the same, but who wants to stay the same forever? Life with kids is constantly changing as they grow and become interested in new things! My son makes me smile everyday even when I'm struggling he's right there with a goofy smile to cheer me up. At the same time adjusting to the fact that every decision effects not only me but my husband and my son can be difficult. Life is always difficult, but I'm doing what I have always wanted to do. That's all I have to say for now. Look out for more updates soon!